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Wednesday, July 2nd, 2008
Adventurous?

Kay People, Delilah is behind schedule, so her guest post will go up as soon as I get it, maybe tomorrow? Not sure, but when I get it, I’ll put it up.

So for today, I’m going to talk to you about something else - Fantasies, and the opportunity to live them out.

Have you ever wondered if you’d “go for it” if given the chance to live out a fantasy?

I’ve often wondered it for myself, then usually said “Yes!”. LOL My opportunites have always managed to come as a chance of luck type thing, which is why I generally go with it. Sort of a “it was meant to happen” type of train of thought.

A while ago some readers on WICEKED WRITERS loop started talking about why they enjoy reading BDSM, and if they would truly be interested in experiencing it. The conversation led to different levels of BDSM and Kink, as well as the relationships and more. Then a day or two after that, I received an email from a guy who had visited my website, and invited me to see thiers. It was very intriguing. (and sort of no such thing as coincedence ??)

Into The Attic is an amature BDSM site. Women (And I think men, get to go there, an explore their submissive fantasies. The catch? It’s videotaped.

Now, one thing I did notice in my research into BDSM previously is that the majority of submissives usually also enjoy some exhibitionism. So this might not be a bad thig for some. It was certainly a good thing for my research as I learned a lot by watching , and talking to them. (You can read more about my research at THE DUNGEON )

Into The Attic is a member site, where you watch real live submissive sessions. These are not actors, but real people. I’ve watched less than half a dozen of the film sequences with various Guests of the Attic (Each session seems to have 5 or 6 sequences,) and I’m still not sure how I feel about them.

Were they tasteful? I think they are. You can choose what part of each session you want to watch, and each session is also descrbed above so you know what you are getting into.

Each session also starts and ends with the Guest speaking clearly about what they are there for. (I’m sure that’s sort of a legal thing too) lol

Were the videos arousing to me? More to my imaginaition than my body. I think I’d enjoy it a lot more if I was writing a BDSM themed story right now - As they are nothing if not creative. I also might enjoy it more if there was a chance of myself and a partner emulating some of it…but I’m partnerless right now, so I took a more analytical view of things. LOL

Do I recommend it? Yes! I think if you have an interest in being submissive, or exploring that aspect of yourself, you should definitely check out INTO THE ATTIC. It’s very interesting.

Into the Attic
Saturday, March 15th, 2008
Top Ten Male Sexual Fantasies

(Pulled from the net)
Don’t expect to be remotely surprised by the following, but equally, says sex therapist Sandra Alexander, you shouldn’t feel threatened. “In the main, such fantasies are harmless recreation. If your man were to genuinely find himself on a South Pacific island surrounded by a dozen nymphettes desperate for his body, he’d be on the first boat home. Really?

Double helpings: A classic position - sandwiched between two women intent on his pleasure.

On location: Sex anywhere but the bedroom. Swimming pools figure highly, as do supermarkets.

Coitus interruptus: Getting down to it on his desk after office hours, knowing that the cleaner could walk in any moment.

Turkish delight: He’s the only fella in a happy harem.

Fancy dress: You guessed it - French maids’ outfits/nurses uniforms. The short skirt and suspenders combo is deeply embedded in the male psyche.

Peeping Tom: The old favourite of watching two women make love.

Forbidden fruit: Á la Alan Clark, sex with two daughters of his mistress. Variations on the theme include bonking his bosses wife while on the phone to him.

Mrs Robinson: A mature sexual tutor teaching him a thing or two.

Brief encounters: Being ravished by a total stranger. Planes and trains feature highly in this fantasy.

Over to her: It’s often the more successful man who dreams of passivity - relinquishing all sexual power to a female warrior/becoming a sex slave/being dished up as dessert, naked on a silver platter.

Saturday, January 19th, 2008
Let’s talk masturbation.

When I saw this new washing machine I thought of a scene in my last WIP, ( MY PREROGATIVE, my Sept 08 release from Berkley,) when the heroine slaps a rubber cock with a suction cup bottom on a chair and rides the chair. I was thinking, hmm, she’d like this washing machine. *Hee hee*

Anyway, this made me think of how often I use masturbation in stories.

Personally, I think if a person doesn’t masturbate, they’re probably no good in bed. My belief is how can you find pleasure if you don’t know what pleases you? And the best way to find out is to well, experiment, with others and with yourself. But come one, isn’t self love a sort of naughty exciting thing?

Especially if you do it with a partner I know, self love with a partner? Then why do it yourself? Because it’s HOT. And if you doubt me, ask your man to stroke himself for you. Men aren’t shy, he’d do it for sure.

Women are shy though. I think it’s ingrained in us at birth to feel shy/ashamed/vulnerable when exposing ourselves. But honestly, a woman touching herself in front of her lover will give her more power over him than she can imagine.
Check this scene out form THE CRIB in the PURE SEX anthology.

“Strip.”
We’d just entered my motel room and I’d gone straight to the bedside table to flick on the lamp, but froze at his command. My heart kicked in my chest and my nipples hardened to the point of pain.
I turned on my heel and watched Devon shrug out of his leather jacket before he dropped into the upright chair just inside the door. If any other man had spoken to me in that tone, I’d kick his ass. But the flicker of tenderness lurking below the heat in Devon’s intense gaze made his attitude exciting, not demeaning.
Reaching up, I played with the top button on my blouse. Keeping my eyes on him I moved from one the next, slipping them through the holes, without moving closer to him or saying a word. When my blouse hung open I slipped one hand under the cloth and cupped a breast. Scraping my fingertip across the nipple it stiffened even more, aching for a firmer touch.
“Take it off. The bra too.” Devon’s voice was husky with arousal, his own hand drifting over his groin to make an adjustment. “I want to see you touch yourself.”
With slow sure movements I slipped the blouse from my shoulders, and removed the black push up bra I’d been wearing. Biting my lip, I closed my eyes and held the weight of a breast in each hand, squeezing lightly while I pinched my nipples between finger and thumb.
Arrows of pleasure shot from nipple to groin and a sigh of longing spilled from my lips. It felt good, but I wanted him.
I cracked my eyes open and watched him watch me as I reached back and undid the clasp on my skirt. With a little shimmy of my hips the skirt dropped to the ground and I stood in front on him naked, but for my thong and my shoes.
Unwilling to let him know just how much I wanted him to touch me, I sat on the edge of the bed across from him and spread my legs crudely.
I sucked a finger into my mouth for a brief second before trailing it down the center of my chest, across my belly and beneath the elastic edge of my panties. Devon’s lips parted and his tongue darted out as he watched the movement beneath the black lace.
“How does it feel?” he asked.
“So good,” I whispered, shocking myself by answering him, egging him on. “Slick and wet. Ready to be filled.”
A low groan rumbled out of him and he made quick work of the buckle of his chaps, as well as his jeans. In seconds he had both pushed low on his hips and his cock bobbed out in the open, hard, thick and proud. Saliva pooled in my mouth as his fingers stroked it lightly up and down.
“Take off your panties.”
I hesitated for a second, and his eyes met mine. “Please.”
Some men might think saying please to a woman made them less, but Devon was confident and assured, and the word flowing from his lips only made me want to do whatever he asked. With one quick move I was rid of the thin lace.
“Get back on the bed,” he instructed. “Sit against the wall, spread your legs. I want to be able to see everything.”
Excitement skittered through me as I did what he asked. My brain had shut off and I was reduced to a mass of quivering desire, seeking only pleasure and praise.
I propped a pillow up against the headboard and leaned back. Drawing my knees up I kept them spread wide. Devon’s cheeks flushed and the hunger on his face was clear to see. I felt crude and dirty, and desired and wanted.
“Show me how you please yourself,” he rasped. “Make yourself come for me.”
One hand immediately dipped between my legs, straight for the hard bud of flesh that peeped out from its protective hood. My other hand cupped a breast and played with the nipple. Tension coiled low in my belly and my hips tilted forward a bit, seeking firmer pressure.
Devon’s hand circled his rigid shaft completely and he stroked himself, the head of his penis turning a deeper purple and starting to shine deliciously. A low moan eased from my throat and I rubbed my button harder, the knot in my belly tightening fiercely.
“That’s it, Baby. I can see your pussy working.”
Keeping the steady pressure on my clit with one hand, my other traveled across my belly to join it between my legs. I let my knees fall outward and I was completely open as my hips thrust up to welcome a stiff finger inside me.
“Ohh,” another helpless moan escaped from me. “I’m close. So close, Devon.”
“I know, Babe. I can see how wet you are. I can smell you from there. You smell so good.”
Those earthly words, uttered in his deep husky voice pushed me over the edge. I dug my heels into the bed and thrust my hips forward. One finger thrusting inside while the other frigged my clit. My eyes slid shut on the vision of his fist pumping faster as the knot in my belly expanded and a long low cry eased from my lips.
When my heart rate slowed and the pounding in my ears subsided I opened my eyes to see Devon still seated in the chair. He wasn’t stroking himself anymore. Instead, his hands were resting on leather clad thighs, and his eyes were burning with a raw male hunger that set my blood to near boiling again.
“Come here.”

For more…pick up the PURE SEX anthology. It’s available in Print and as an eBook.

Thursday, December 27th, 2007
The Gym

This is just a little thing I wrote a long long time ago…but I was remineded of it when I worked out yesterday. Some of you might have read it before, as it’s in SECRET THOUGHTS: EROTIQUE, as well as has been a free read on my site before…but as I am trying to help motivate many with my Slim Camp health journey, I thought I’d post it today for everyone. See what happens when you go to the gym…inspiration can strike!

THE GYM

I’d been watching him for a while.
He is the motivation that keeps me going back to the gym.
Exercising isn’t something I enjoy, but when I can watch him in the mirror as I run on the treadmill, it’s not only the sweat that dampens my body. The sight of his sleek muscles straining as he adds more weight to the barbells and lays back on the bench to do more presses gives me ideas on other ways we could work out together - on that very same bench.
I fantasize that we’re the only people in the gym, and I use his safety straps to restrain his hands on the barbell above him. Then I stand next to the bench, strip off my sweaty workout clothes and reveal myself to him. The tent in his shorts caused by his straining erection encourages me to take total control of his body.
Walking to the end of the bench, I lean over his body, just close enough to brush the hard tips of my breasts against his bare stomach. I let me head fall so that my long hair falls on his firm chest, tickling him as I lightly swing my head back and forth. Shifting my weight, I lower my body closer so my tits hug his cock through his shorts, and he can feel my hot breath on his chest. I open my mouth and my tongue darts out to tease his nipple to erectness. When it’s sticking up like a miniature cock, I take the hard nub into my wet mouth and nibble teasingly with my teeth - then lave it better with firm strokes of my tongue. I shift slightly for better access to the other nipple, the shift of pressure on his cock causes him to lift his hips against me and groan softly. He doesn’t want to speak any more than I want to hear him, his groans and sighs are message enough.
When both nipples are standing proud, wet and shiny from my ministrations, I slide my body back so I am on my knees between his. Leaning back, I quickly divest him of his shorts so that his throbbing cock is bare, and only inches from my hungry lips.
Liking the power I feel with him laid out before me, I tease a little more. I lean forward and nip at his inner thigh with my sharp teeth, knowing that as I do this all he really feels is the inching of my fingers through the nest of curls at the base of his cock. To get his focus where I want it, I push his thighs further apart and place a long wet lick with firm pressure on that soft skin between his puckered asshole and his heavy balls. He tries to lift his hips and increase the pressure, but I deny him that. After sucking his balls into my hot mouth for a brief taste, I’m done teasing.
My own juices are starting to run from my swollen pussylips down my thighs as I pull his cock away from his belly and surround it with my lips. After a minute of adjustment, I start a slow rhythm of bobbing with my mouth giving firm suction. He tastes delicious, salty and sweet.
The sounds coming from his throat as I speed up slightly are causing my quim to quiver in anticipation. One of my hands leaves his thigh to reach between mine and play with myself. As I slip a finger deep inside I realize it isn’t enough, so I add another. This isn’t what I want. I want to be filled, and that’s for him to do.
Abandoning all my ministrations I stand up and quickly straddle him on the bench. I don’t move until him open his eyes and are watching me. With gazes locked, I reach between my spread legs and guide him into my wet hole. I lower myself and we both let out a groan of satisfaction as his hard rigid cock fills me.
I start to roll my hips gently and notice that his grip on the barbell above him has become white-knuckled. I lean forward and place my hands next to his on the barbell and start to pump my hips faster. With feet flat on the floor, I have total control and ease with shifting tempo and pressure on him.
The air is still around us, only disturbed by our panting breath and the occasional grunt and groan from him. I squeeze him tight inside and know that him can’t hold back much longer. I pump a little faster.
The end is near for us both. I tilt my hips to that angle I know will get him deeper and give my throbbing clit the pressure I need to get off. A quick thrust and our hips grind together and I feel myself slip into oblivion. My inner walls clench his throbbing cock and his cum shoots into me, filling me the way I’ve wanted him to for so long.
With no strength left in my body, I release my grip on the barbell, undo the ties that bind his wrists, and cuddle up on the chest I’ve admired for so long as his arms surround me.
He is the inspiration that keeps me going to the gym.

Monday, December 10th, 2007
Not Sexy

OKay, is it just me who thinks that men should not have their belly button’s pierced? Something about it just turns me off.

Pierced nipples on the other hand, make me want to play.

I tried to make the pictures go side by side, but I’m not techie smart enough to do it. Maybe you can just imagine them side by side? I’ll imagine them side by side-with me in the middle.

Monday, September 17th, 2007

What is it about blindfolds that turns you on to a degree that is sometimes shocking?
I see it in the desire in your eyes before I cover them.
I see it in the minute trembling of your body as you sit patiently, waiting for my next move … my next touch.
I smell it in the air that surounds us, and feel it in the energy that sparks between us.
I don’t know what it is about the blindfold that turns you on so much, but I do know I’m thankful for it. Because there are few things that I love more than to have you so egerly at my mercy.

Friday, August 17th, 2007
Sex Trivia

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~ When a first sexual encounter flops, don’t fret: 72% Of women and 62% of men say they’d go for seconds.
~ More than 10% of guys and 9$% of gals report having first date sex.
~ Developing a deep connection usually takes longer than three dates.

Wednesday, July 18th, 2007
Check it out!

I’ve got a Love Honey.com Interview!! *grin*

It went up lat friday, and I totally forgot with allt hat has happened in my daily life to tell you!!
PLEASE go check it out. LoveHoney.com is a wonderful site full of erotic goodies. (storeis and uhmm, toys!)

As fro the things that have been happening… I’ll tell you all when everythign is final!

Wednesday, July 4th, 2007
Refilling.

I’ve been “refilling the well” lately. Y’know, reading, going to movies. having a life. And the whole time story ideas simmer in the back of my mind. But, it’s July now, and it;’s time to make those ideas leave my mind for the pages of a story. Getting back into writing after time off is hell, but once I’m back in, it’ll be golden.

My one last visit to the well today?? Going to see TRANSFORMERS!! I can’t wait!

I love action shows. Live Free or Die Hard was great too. I’m a huge Bruce Fan, and he never let me down. For books, I’ve read so many lately that I can’t even remember which ones where which. They were all mostly enjoyable, but none stood out. That’s not so great, is it?

Well, for me it’s motivating. Because I don’t ever want any of my stories to NOT stand out. So the simmering stories were turned up a notch.

Thursday, May 17th, 2007
Why?

When people ask me what I write, I tell them, usually. I don’t always tell all of my customers ( Day job is a part-time bartender. ) mostly because they’re men, and they’re drinking, and sometimes I just don’t feel like dealing with the inevitable questions. So basically, the regulars all know I write, and what (some have even read my books) But when others ask what I write I just say fiction/short stories.

I’ll tell some of them that it’s erotica but not many because, really, it’s none of their business. Anyway, I was having a great conversation with one woman the other night about goals and motivation and stuff. My writing came up and I was open about the fact that the stories I had published were erotica. She asked me, “Do you write erotica so you can pretend to be someone else?”

My answer was, “No, that’s why I write romance.”

It brought to mind the fact that the only man I’ve ever received flowers from is my Dad. That I’ve never actually been on a dinner date, or a movie date, or a picnic, or any of those other things that are supposed to be ‘common dating rituals’.

Is this true for most of the single women today? Is this normal? Is romance still alive and well out there and I’m just not seeing it, or is it dying a slow death that will only live on in novels? And Why do you read romance/ erotic romance?

Another quandry I’ve been mulling over…recently one of my co-workers picked up Lush the other day. When I asked her if she liked it, she said “Yeah, but I can’t help rolling my eyes when I read teh sex scenes.” and giggled.

I asked if it was too explicit, or if it was because she knew I wrote it? (I have one freind who loves erotic romance, but she won’t read mine because it makes her blush to know *I* wrote it. LOL ) Anyway, this lady looked at me and shook her head with a small smile and said it wasn’t the explicitness, or that I write it, but that “sex just isn’t like that in real life.”

The wierd thing, I’m single and I find that sex can and often is as good as what I write, but I’ve yet to experience the romance. She’s been in a long term relationship and is getting married next month, and she thinks sex is never as good as in a book, but she’s had the romance.

What do you think of that? Is it the just a coincidence, or a personality thing? I don’t know if I could marry a guy who didn’t, or couldn’t, rock my world every now and then, no matter how much he romanced me. Maybe writing these stories has skewered my expectations?