Comments on: Issues http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/ Romance with Heat, Erotica with Heart Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:43:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Scarlet Wharton http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56460 Scarlet Wharton Mon, 25 Feb 2008 17:20:33 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56460 Thank you for the kindness of your words, beleive me I do think all the time , probably to much...I actually only hit 5'9" but my torso and legs are both long and while it helps (with weight gain) to keep me looking slimmer, I allso carry it all in my hips and thighs, with a small waist and just as small breasts....big time pear shape! Thank you for the kindness of your words, beleive me I do think all the time , probably to much…I actually only hit 5′9″ but my torso and legs are both long and while it helps (with weight gain) to keep me looking slimmer, I allso carry it all in my hips and thighs, with a small waist and just as small breasts….big time pear shape!

]]> By: amie http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56453 amie Sun, 24 Feb 2008 00:14:25 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56453 <i>And, I fully acknowledge that doing something is never is as easy as saying something,</i> Boy ain't that the truth!!! I'm the world's best advice giver *ggg* Just ask me. Okay seriously, Scarlet, I don't talk about my ex a lot (honest) but he's also narcissistic--it's a tough relationship to be in and I still have to deal with him even though we've been apart for so long because we have children. Take it a step at a time...a day at a time and as Sasha said love yourself and respect yourself. It'll come. Trus tme :grin: BTW I don't know how tall you are but I envy you--I always wanted about three more inches *sigh* I have a very tall aunt and a very tall cousin but I'm average And, I fully acknowledge that doing something is never is as easy as saying something,

Boy ain’t that the truth!!! I’m the world’s best advice giver *ggg* Just ask me. Okay seriously, Scarlet, I don’t talk about my ex a lot (honest) but he’s also narcissistic–it’s a tough relationship to be in and I still have to deal with him even though we’ve been apart for so long because we have children. Take it a step at a time…a day at a time and as Sasha said love yourself and respect yourself. It’ll come. Trus tme

BTW I don’t know how tall you are but I envy you–I always wanted about three more inches *sigh* I have a very tall aunt and a very tall cousin but I’m average

]]> By: Sasha http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56450 Sasha Sat, 23 Feb 2008 17:04:52 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56450 Hey D! Welcome to Slim Camp. *grin* Scarlet, it sounds liek you know what you need to do, you just don't want to do it yet. One thign I heard at some point in time that has always stuck with me is..<strong>.If you don't love and respect yourself, why should others?</strong> Understanding others, and their type/attitude is good, but understanding it, and still letting them put you down is not. And, I fully acknowledge that doing something is never is as easy as saying something, so I wish you luck in finding your own way to true happiness. *hug* Hey D! Welcome to Slim Camp. *grin*

Scarlet, it sounds liek you know what you need to do, you just don’t want to do it yet. One thign I heard at some point in time that has always stuck with me is...If you don’t love and respect yourself, why should others?

Understanding others, and their type/attitude is good, but understanding it, and still letting them put you down is not. And, I fully acknowledge that doing something is never is as easy as saying something, so I wish you luck in finding your own way to true happiness. *hug*

]]> By: Scarlet Wharton http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56446 Scarlet Wharton Sat, 23 Feb 2008 16:24:09 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56446 I'm not sure I could pinpoint one thing..maybe my family always sticking food in our faces for every emotional confrontation we faced our the fact that once I began to outweigh every member of my family (even the boys) my mom quit buying me clothes but lavished on them on the others...even though that meant I had to go around with jeans way to short. Her constant complaining when she had no choice but to buy me clothes. I grew 3 1/2" in on month and grew steadily from there. I am the only girl over 5 7" in my family. I do think now though it's partly my cuurent relationship, which is really like my Mom all over again, except it's my boyfriend who constantly put's me down. I watched Dr. Phil the other day, something I normally never do, but he was speaking of a narcistic type attitude. Though I was watching and I related that thi was in fact Ricky and my Mom...I still found excuses for them or maybe for myself. I’m not sure I could pinpoint one thing..maybe my family always sticking food in our faces for every emotional confrontation we faced our the fact that once I began to outweigh every member of my family (even the boys) my mom quit buying me clothes but lavished on them on the others…even though that meant I had to go around with jeans way to short. Her constant complaining when she had no choice but to buy me clothes. I grew 3 1/2″ in on month and grew steadily from there. I am the only girl over 5 7″ in my family. I do think now though it’s partly my cuurent relationship, which is really like my Mom all over again, except it’s my boyfriend who constantly put’s me down. I watched Dr. Phil the other day, something I normally never do, but he was speaking of a narcistic type attitude. Though I was watching and I related that thi was in fact Ricky and my Mom…I still found excuses for them or maybe for myself.

]]> By: Delilah Devlin http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56442 Delilah Devlin Sat, 23 Feb 2008 02:46:14 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56442 I need to stop by more often! I've been trying to lose weight since November. I diet, I slide, I diet, I slide. And it's all to do with whether I'm writing hard or not. I'd love to blame my weight gain entirely on my nonexistant thryroid, but I really should be doing more. Maybe I'll be back for inspiration! :) I need to stop by more often! I’ve been trying to lose weight since November. I diet, I slide, I diet, I slide. And it’s all to do with whether I’m writing hard or not.

I’d love to blame my weight gain entirely on my nonexistant thryroid, but I really should be doing more.

Maybe I’ll be back for inspiration! :)

]]> By: amie http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56360 amie Thu, 21 Feb 2008 23:24:39 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56360 LOL sasha i barely remember what it is. It definitely has been --thanks ya'll!!! LOL sasha i barely remember what it is.

It definitely has been –thanks ya’ll!!!

]]> By: Sasha http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56356 Sasha Thu, 21 Feb 2008 22:42:11 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56356 I agree, sex has a lot to do with why I gained wieght. Or I should say Lack of sex. I started writing about it and stopped having it! LOL Well, okay, not stopped completely, but well...k. I'm shutting up now. Anyway, I agree about the kids thing. It's got to be so hard now days to challenge them to be active when there is so many video games and such. Thank you everyone for sharing. It's wonderful to know we're not alone. I agree, sex has a lot to do with why I gained wieght. Or I should say Lack of sex. I started writing about it and stopped having it! LOL

Well, okay, not stopped completely, but well…k. I’m shutting up now.

Anyway, I agree about the kids thing. It’s got to be so hard now days to challenge them to be active when there is so many video games and such.

Thank you everyone for sharing. It’s wonderful to know we’re not alone.

]]> By: Amie Stuart http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56353 Amie Stuart Thu, 21 Feb 2008 22:05:34 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56353 *Sigh* Vivi.......right before I met my ex I started running and dropped about 20 pounds. Then I got preggers and packed on a whopping 50 pounds just like you did. *Sigh* Vivi…….right before I met my ex I started running and dropped about 20 pounds. Then I got preggers and packed on a whopping 50 pounds just like you did.

]]> By: Amie Stuart http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56352 Amie Stuart Thu, 21 Feb 2008 22:04:20 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56352 Nikki you look FABULOUS! It's so tough with kids!!! That's all my oldest wants to eat too (carbs) but he's not having near the weight problems the youngest is and funny enough the youngest eats better--which is all relative. You're right. THey do watch us probably a lot more than they listen to us! I just keep thinking if I keep them active they should be okay....I also don't keep a lot of junk in the house. Unfortunately, their dad is a soda junkie so they come home on his weekends wired! Nikki you look FABULOUS!

It’s so tough with kids!!! That’s all my oldest wants to eat too (carbs) but he’s not having near the weight problems the youngest is and funny enough the youngest eats better–which is all relative. You’re right. THey do watch us probably a lot more than they listen to us!

I just keep thinking if I keep them active they should be okay….I also don’t keep a lot of junk in the house. Unfortunately, their dad is a soda junkie so they come home on his weekends wired!

]]> By: Naughty Nikki http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56346 Naughty Nikki Thu, 21 Feb 2008 21:30:48 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2008/02/20/issues/#comment-56346 Great post, Amie. I've always been the one in my family that didn't struggle with wieght. At least I could make that claim before having two children. I'm not quite to the weight I'd like to see myself at, but I'm at the weight my doctor told me to shoot for, so I'm happy with it. That said, I do still watch what I eat and I try to work out fairly regularly. And I know that my oldest daughter is watching my husband and me closely. She's a little chubby, but I blame the carbs. It's all she wants to eat. Which is funny because when my MIL was overweight and babysittin all the time that's all she fed her. Now that my MIL has gone to weight watchers and lost weight she's decided everyone else should too. She inormed my daughter one day that she needed to make better eating decisions. Um, hello. You helped program the way her brain works. That said, I'm grateful for the pediatrician we have. During my daughter's last well visit, the doctor talked to her about how much fruit and salad she's eating and how much exercise she gets on a daily basis. Yeah, my daughter didn't fair too well, but the doctor didn't tell her that. Instead, she challenged my daughter to double her fruit intake (from zero to one a day) and then after awhile double it again and so on until she was getting the 5 servings a day. She also challenged her to get a pedometer and count her steps. The minimum steps that any person should take in a day is 10,000. After accepting the doc's challenges, my daughter dropped 5 pounds in a month. Then she hit a growth spurt, put more on, and now that I watch her I see what she has turning into muscle, which as we know weighs more than fat. I defintely think there's a right and wrong way to handle weight with kids. It's too easy to make them think they're fat and therefore less of a person. Great post, Amie. I’ve always been the one in my family that didn’t struggle with wieght. At least I could make that claim before having two children. I’m not quite to the weight I’d like to see myself at, but I’m at the weight my doctor told me to shoot for, so I’m happy with it. That said, I do still watch what I eat and I try to work out fairly regularly. And I know that my oldest daughter is watching my husband and me closely.

She’s a little chubby, but I blame the carbs. It’s all she wants to eat. Which is funny because when my MIL was overweight and babysittin all the time that’s all she fed her. Now that my MIL has gone to weight watchers and lost weight she’s decided everyone else should too. She inormed my daughter one day that she needed to make better eating decisions. Um, hello. You helped program the way her brain works.

That said, I’m grateful for the pediatrician we have. During my daughter’s last well visit, the doctor talked to her about how much fruit and salad she’s eating and how much exercise she gets on a daily basis. Yeah, my daughter didn’t fair too well, but the doctor didn’t tell her that. Instead, she challenged my daughter to double her fruit intake (from zero to one a day) and then after awhile double it again and so on until she was getting the 5 servings a day. She also challenged her to get a pedometer and count her steps. The minimum steps that any person should take in a day is 10,000. After accepting the doc’s challenges, my daughter dropped 5 pounds in a month.

Then she hit a growth spurt, put more on, and now that I watch her I see what she has turning into muscle, which as we know weighs more than fat.

I defintely think there’s a right and wrong way to handle weight with kids. It’s too easy to make them think they’re fat and therefore less of a person.

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