Comments on: Watch Me http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/ Romance with Heat, Erotica with Heart Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:41:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Paula http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4529 Paula Wed, 15 Mar 2006 19:47:16 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4529 I agree that we all like the strong sense of self a generous validation, comment or flirt gives us. But some of us don't need it on a constant basis. When it comes to writing, of course, you love when someone likes your stuff or gives you a well done pat on the back when you get the call from a publisher. I got one book published and am freaking out more on the second submission to my publisher than I did with the first, because now I know there are people out there willing to buy and read my stuff. I don't want to let them down, so when my CP emails me and says stop worrying it's amazing, I smile through my fear of rejection and hope for the best. A wink from a good looking guy, or even just an I love you out of the blue from my husband is something that can bring my ego to sky roocketing. So yeah we all have our blah days (even guys I think) but it usually takes just a small gesture to bring us back on line. :roll: I agree that we all like the strong sense of self a generous validation, comment or flirt gives us. But some of us don’t need it on a constant basis. When it comes to writing, of course, you love when someone likes your stuff or gives you a well done pat on the back when you get the call from a publisher. I got one book published and am freaking out more on the second submission to my publisher than I did with the first, because now I know there are people out there willing to buy and read my stuff. I don’t want to let them down, so when my CP emails me and says stop worrying it’s amazing, I smile through my fear of rejection and hope for the best. A wink from a good looking guy, or even just an I love you out of the blue from my husband is something that can bring my ego to sky roocketing. So yeah we all have our blah days (even guys I think) but it usually takes just a small gesture to bring us back on line.

]]> By: Sasha http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4527 Sasha Wed, 15 Mar 2006 16:45:03 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4527 I agree with that Chey. When I'm writing it, I like to have a cheerleader. ONe who will still tell me if I go way off track. But basically someone to keep me moving forward and let me know that it doesn't suck. Because when I'm writing, I think everything sucks. LOL But once it's written, then it's time to get to the nitty gritty. That's when it's okay to tell me what needs to be fixed, along with what is already good. :D I agree with that Chey. When I’m writing it, I like to have a cheerleader. ONe who will still tell me if I go way off track. But basically someone to keep me moving forward and let me know that it doesn’t suck. Because when I’m writing, I think everything sucks. LOL

But once it’s written, then it’s time to get to the nitty gritty. That’s when it’s okay to tell me what needs to be fixed, along with what is already good. :D

]]> By: Cheyenne McCray http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4526 Cheyenne McCray Wed, 15 Mar 2006 14:51:03 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4526 I *need* to hear positive things about my work from my cp's. If I don't I get down because then I feel like my work must be crap. I, as the insecures author, need some kind of positive feedback which energizes me. A rah rah kind of thing. LOL I *need* to hear positive things about my work from my cp’s. If I don’t I get down because then I feel like my work must be crap. I, as the insecures author, need some kind of positive feedback which energizes me. A rah rah kind of thing. LOL

]]> By: Shelli http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4521 Shelli Wed, 15 Mar 2006 07:01:44 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4521 Oh I hear ya! Aren't we in the same boat. Never married, and my longest relationship lasted... um, three months? I am not good on relationships. But to have men flirt does give us validation. It's why I end up flirting with some random guy who flirts with my through my blog. I've gotten so tired of the process. Of hoping 'this guy will be different' I've gone into shut down mode. Where I don't get past the 'he's cute' part. It's he's cute. Period. Move on. I don't know, it adds to my fantasies though, which transfers into my books. Someday I may meet 'the one', but until then I've got my writing and a vibrator :lol: Oh I hear ya! Aren’t we in the same boat. Never married, and my longest relationship lasted… um, three months? I am not good on relationships. But to have men flirt does give us validation. It’s why I end up flirting with some random guy who flirts with my through my blog. I’ve gotten so tired of the process. Of hoping ‘this guy will be different’ I’ve gone into shut down mode. Where I don’t get past the ‘he’s cute’ part. It’s he’s cute. Period. Move on. I don’t know, it adds to my fantasies though, which transfers into my books. Someday I may meet ‘the one’, but until then I’ve got my writing and a vibrator

]]> By: tami http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4516 tami Wed, 15 Mar 2006 03:45:30 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4516 :oops:sorry that was so long sorry that was so long

]]> By: tami http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4515 tami Wed, 15 Mar 2006 03:40:21 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4515 :sad:yes that is so true, i know now, ive always depended on what others SAW when they looked at me and how the repsonded to how i felt, o a tight pair of blue jeans, tshirt, hair hitting my waist, got preg , felt horrible, had baby, lost weight WOW men like me again, had 2nd baby, losing weight,, got noraplnt,, ballooned to 190 from 125 (thought 125 that was FAT~ wouldnt i stupid!) lost some weight, it bounced, got preg with 3rd, never lost weight again. never felt like i mattered or was pretty , was a mom, just that, i quit wearing makeup, gave up dressing even decently, just grab whatever, didnt matter if match or even clean (hey i was a nobody since men didnt think i was attractive ) but turns out it was all ME how i thought i was worthy of guy flirting, yep would like to have a guy flirt so could ignore or AH look at him, aint he a lout ,lol yes that is so true, i know now, ive always depended on what others SAW when they looked at me and how the repsonded to how i felt, o a tight pair of blue jeans, tshirt, hair hitting my waist, got preg , felt horrible, had baby, lost weight WOW men like me again, had 2nd baby, losing weight,, got noraplnt,, ballooned to 190 from 125 (thought 125 that was FAT~ wouldnt i stupid!) lost some weight, it bounced, got preg with 3rd, never lost weight again. never felt like i mattered or was pretty , was a mom, just that, i quit wearing makeup, gave up dressing even decently, just grab whatever, didnt matter if match or even clean (hey i was a nobody since men didnt think i was attractive ) but turns out it was all ME
how i thought i was worthy of guy flirting, yep would like to have a guy flirt so could ignore or AH look at him, aint he a lout ,lol

]]> By: Eve http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4514 Eve Tue, 14 Mar 2006 21:54:47 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4514 i don't know - I don't have a lot of that outside validation. Being stuck here with mother keeps me very isolated and there are days when I feel like a real slug. You really don't want me to get into this - I'll just go back to watching Dr. Phil. i don’t know - I don’t have a lot of that outside validation. Being stuck here with mother keeps me very isolated and there are days when I feel like a real slug. You really don’t want me to get into this - I’ll just go back to watching Dr. Phil.

]]> By: Jordan http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4513 Jordan Tue, 14 Mar 2006 17:31:05 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4513 I agree, Sasha. It's dangerous to need that validation from an outside source. What happens when that source is gone? I agree, Sasha. It’s dangerous to need that validation from an outside source. What happens when that source is gone?

]]> By: Sasha http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4512 Sasha Tue, 14 Mar 2006 17:25:16 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4512 I get that we all need valdation . It's normal. But I also think some peoepl start to depend on outside validaationtoo much, and it can hurt them, emotionally, as a person. Can you tell I watched Oprah yesterday? :roll: I get that we all need valdation . It’s normal. But I also think some peoepl start to depend on outside validaationtoo much, and it can hurt them, emotionally, as a person.

Can you tell I watched Oprah yesterday?

]]> By: Beth http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/03/14/watch-me-2/#comment-4511 Beth Tue, 14 Mar 2006 13:23:19 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=644#comment-4511 Love right back at you girl *kiss* I meant every word of my e-mail. WATCH ME is hot and intriguing. :mrgreen: Okay, now to your topic... I know exactly what you mean. We all, as human beings, need validation and assurance of our worth. Whether it's a child telling us 'I love you' or a stranger winking at you. Our self-esteem can depend on that reinforcement. In a perfect world, we wouldn't need others to validate us, but unfortunately, I ain't perfect and I need that validation. I need to feel attractive, smart, talented, and sexy. I can tell myself that a million times, and it won't have as much impact as hearing it from someone else. So, Sasha, you are a wonderful, talented writer and a good friend. Love ya sister. *hugs* Love right back at you girl *kiss*
I meant every word of my e-mail. WATCH ME is hot and intriguing.
Okay, now to your topic… I know exactly what you mean. We all, as human beings, need validation and assurance of our worth. Whether it’s a child telling us ‘I love you’ or a stranger winking at you. Our self-esteem can depend on that reinforcement.
In a perfect world, we wouldn’t need others to validate us, but unfortunately, I ain’t perfect and I need that validation. I need to feel attractive, smart, talented, and sexy. I can tell myself that a million times, and it won’t have as much impact as hearing it from someone else.
So, Sasha, you are a wonderful, talented writer and a good friend. Love ya sister. *hugs*

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