Comments on: How special is sex? http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/02/09/how-special-is-sex/ Romance with Heat, Erotica with Heart Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:29:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Toni http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/02/09/how-special-is-sex/#comment-4296 Toni Wed, 15 Feb 2006 03:25:43 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=617#comment-4296 My story is exactly the same as Cheyenne's (ages and everything else) except we've only been married for 10 years. Though before I married, I was a kissing whore. My story is exactly the same as Cheyenne’s (ages and everything else) except we’ve only been married for 10 years. Though before I married, I was a kissing whore.

]]> By: Sela http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/02/09/how-special-is-sex/#comment-4251 Sela Fri, 10 Feb 2006 00:32:42 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=617#comment-4251 I had a hell of a time getting laid. Seriously. I went to a deeply conservative private high school. Then a deeply conservative religious college. Then Boise State University. In the theatre department. Boy, was that an eye opener. And still I could not find anyone I liked enough to do this special thing with. Even the couple of young men I dated proved hesitant to change my virgin state. They said it was too special for just anyone to do it. I think they were actually afraid that if they slept with me, they'd be obligated to marry me. LOL! I was a couple of months shy of 22 when I finally had my first experience. Come to find out, he was actually asleep when we did it. I kid you not. Dude was asleep. Woke up in the middle of the act just mortified. It took me months to realize it, though. Still, I only slept with one other guy before dh and felt just awful about it. Sex with no strings, but it didn't feel right, even though he was fantastic. After I met dh, I didn't even look back. The point of this ramble is that sex can be great and still not special. It's only special for me if it's something I can give everything to, including my heart. I had a hell of a time getting laid. Seriously. I went to a deeply conservative private high school. Then a deeply conservative religious college. Then Boise State University. In the theatre department. Boy, was that an eye opener. And still I could not find anyone I liked enough to do this special thing with.

Even the couple of young men I dated proved hesitant to change my virgin state. They said it was too special for just anyone to do it. I think they were actually afraid that if they slept with me, they’d be obligated to marry me. LOL!

I was a couple of months shy of 22 when I finally had my first experience. Come to find out, he was actually asleep when we did it. I kid you not. Dude was asleep. Woke up in the middle of the act just mortified. It took me months to realize it, though.

Still, I only slept with one other guy before dh and felt just awful about it. Sex with no strings, but it didn’t feel right, even though he was fantastic. After I met dh, I didn’t even look back.

The point of this ramble is that sex can be great and still not special. It’s only special for me if it’s something I can give everything to, including my heart.

]]> By: Cheyenne McCray http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/02/09/how-special-is-sex/#comment-4250 Cheyenne McCray Thu, 09 Feb 2006 18:14:05 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=617#comment-4250 My dh was my first and only and we've now been married for 20 years. I was 19 when we got together, and obviously I picked the right man. :) I think it is special, but I also think that if the woman hasn't found the right man for her heart, it's okay to enjoy sexual pleasure. It's completely healthy and acceptable. I just have no experience despite the fact that I write erotic romance. LOL My dh was my first and only and we’ve now been married for 20 years. I was 19 when we got together, and obviously I picked the right man. :) I think it is special, but I also think that if the woman hasn’t found the right man for her heart, it’s okay to enjoy sexual pleasure. It’s completely healthy and acceptable. I just have no experience despite the fact that I write erotic romance. LOL

]]> By: Paula http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2006/02/09/how-special-is-sex/#comment-4249 Paula Thu, 09 Feb 2006 17:32:18 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=617#comment-4249 I think sex is as special as you make it. I was like you in high school. I had friends who were let's just say promiscious to be nice, a few kids I knew were pregnant in their senior year. I had heard all my sister's terrible stories of sex with different guys who didn't care about her. So I was saving myself, problem was no one I liked liked me, so losing my virginity before graduation seemed hopeless. until one night I double dated with my best friend at the time. The guys she set me up with was the best friend of her boyfriend, she told him that I wanted him to take my virginity because I was tired of being a virgin. I thought he really liked me and then the next day he blew me off totally. But later it seems fate had a plan because I ended up with her boyfriend, who is now my husband and the father of my two kids. I think sex is as special as you make it. I was like you in high school. I had friends who were let’s just say promiscious to be nice, a few kids I knew were pregnant in their senior year. I had heard all my sister’s terrible stories of sex with different guys who didn’t care about her. So I was saving myself, problem was no one I liked liked me, so losing my virginity before graduation seemed hopeless. until one night I double dated with my best friend at the time. The guys she set me up with was the best friend of her boyfriend, she told him that I wanted him to take my virginity because I was tired of being a virgin. I thought he really liked me and then the next day he blew me off totally. But later it seems fate had a plan because I ended up with her boyfriend, who is now my husband and the father of my two kids.

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