Today’s your last chance to sign up for Secret Thoughts before the February issue goes out tomorrow.
It’s also the last chance for a certain male to get in touch with me. Yup. I’m back at that spot in time where some hottie has gotten me all interested, then taken a step back. Now., I’m ok with doing a bit of the chasing. I mean, he did start it all off right? However, I’m strangely traditional inthe way that I want a man to want me enough that he’ll chase me when I back off.
No, I don’t want a stalker. What I want it to know that the guy wants me, and not just some chic who flirted with him. I mean, sure I love to flirt, I’ll flirt with almost anyone, but when it comes to actually goingout with someone, or the whole sex thing, I want to be more than just what’s available…and while I do think Man 3 thiks of me as more than ‘available’ I don’t think he wants me enough. So, I’m getting ready to walk away.
Because I have many friends who stay in their relationships becasue it’s comfortabl, or becasue they don’t want to be alone, and while I’m not always 100% thrilled with being alone, I do think it’s better than being with someone who doesn’t value me.
The question I often ask myself is…I am asking for too much from a man? Is it too much to want someone who wants to treat me liek a princess, and who will let me treat him like a king? I mean , I love to give massages and cook for him…but in return..I want some tender loving care too. Is that too much to ask for?
It isn’t too much to ask Sasha. But one thing I have come to realize is that sometimes we get too wrapped up in our heros in our stories and confuse them with the real male mind. I have a wonderful husband but sometimes I discount how good I have it and dream of that man I read about. Keep looking for what you want but remember to keep your fantasy heros seperate in your mind from the real life heros. Their out there and occasionally you will find one that resembles our characters but for the most part you have to understand the male mind and know that they will have their moments of treating you like a queen, but there will come a day or two where they will trreat you like a waitress. No pun intended on that one.
by Paula February 1st, 2006 at 12:21 pmOh I knwo the heros in books aren’t the same as every day men. I work in bar. I know what real men are like. LOL
I don’t want a hero. I just want a man who wants ME. I want someone who actually asks me how things are, and someone who cares if I’m in a bad mood. Someone who willbe interested in dating and going out. Not someone who just cares if I’m horny and isn’t interested in spending time with me if I’m not.
I know I’m not meeting the best of the crop. I meet most men at work, the bar’s notthe best place. However, nothing else seems to work either.
The real telling thing here is…I’m not even sure if I care if he calls today or not. I just know that if he doesn’t, then next time he does, the answer will be “No thanks. Have a nice life. “
by Sasha February 1st, 2006 at 12:30 pmCommentIt’s NOT too much to ask. You just hang in there, Sasha. There’s someone out there for you!
by Larissa February 1st, 2006 at 2:10 pmThanks, Larissa.
You know, I can’t even say it’s all men, because I too have hooked up with a guy and seen him only as a sex playmate, and not someone I wanted to be with as more. I alos have had others that have wanted more from me, but they’re not ones I ‘clicked’ with. SO I thinkit’s all about the ‘right one’. That’s NOT to say there’s only one ‘right one’, but I do think in order for it to be right, both peoepl have to want more.
by Sasha February 1st, 2006 at 3:54 pmNo, it’s not too much to ask. I think it’s important to tell someone upfront what you’re looking for. It avoids confusion later.
by Jordan February 1st, 2006 at 4:55 pmI don’t think it’s too much to ask. There’s a line in a song from The Music Man (stay with me here) and it says something along the line of I want a man more interested in me than he is in himself and more interested in us than he is in me. Now, I’d settle for the interested in us - in the relationship. I do believe that there’s someone out there for everyone, and I don’t believe in settling because you’re cheating two people there. But I do know that you have to go out and look for them - they don’t always come to you. And if you’re not interested in going out on the search at the moment, then maybe it’s not a big priority right now. I also know that you have to be comfortable with yourself first - and I think you’re at that point. Keep the faith!
by Eve February 2nd, 2006 at 9:52 am