In one of my Black Lace short stories,HANDLING AMANDA, a bit of a D/s story, the male, (the Dom) talks throughout the whole scene. Well, there’s actually three sex scenes in it, and he talks through each one. It wasn’t a conscious choice I made, to have him be so verbal, it just happened. It was him. He was alwasy asking things like; “feel good?” or “Ohh you like that, don’t you?” or ” More?”
And when I got my notes from the editor one of the things she commented on was, “Jacob’s a great dom, I like the way he talks even after the sex gets started.” (I’m paraphrasing)
In GYPSY HEART, there’s a phone sex scene that’s pretty damn hot.
Not all of my stories have really verbal scenes, but I have to admit…I think sex talk can be a real turn on. And a great tool to build tension, in a story and in real life…for women as well as men.
But what is it about the sex talk thats so hot? Is it the actual words? Or is the naughty fact that someone is talking at all? Is it the way they’re being said? Tone of voice? Sound of voice?
I’ve seen it done in some stories where I felt it ruined a scene. No solid reason why, just that I didn’t like it. Yet at other times, it fans the flames of lust and desire higher than anything else can.
What is it about sex talk that makes it hot?
Sex talk…I think it’s hot because it can not only make you feel like the person you are with is enjoying you but what you are doing to him/her. I love sex talk, I love sex noise. My husband is a NONE NOISE MAKER. But he likes me to talk dirty to him. Problem is that when I do it heightens his enjoyment so much that he, um, loses it right away. So when I through out some sex talk I have to make sure I do it in moderation and watch what I say. I’ve learned the words that blow him over the edge. So I guess you could say that sex in my house is not something I can lose my mind in because if I do it’s over before it really begins. So I would have to say that sex talk is so erotic because anyone can moan, faking or not, but to express your feelings or convey what turns you on to another person is what makes it so skin tingling. :hehe:
Sex talk is taboo, or at least we like to think it is. That is why it’s fun. That’s why we ‘whisper’ it. It’s like having sex outdoors, or being watched. We know we shouldn’t do it because it has this stigma, but we enjoy getting away with it. I always feel special when talked to dirty. It makes me feel like she is doing this "special" , "forbidden" thing just for me. I must really make her hot.
I like Os’s answer 😛
And that phone sex scene rocks :hehe:
Cece~Yeah, I’ve never been one tohink phone sex would be a turn on, but writing that scene made me hot. :blush:
Os~ Knowig that you turn someone else on is certainly arousing…add the "forbidden" factor in, and yes…defintely hot.
Taboo….even the word is sexy.
Paula~ Ohhh, doesn’t knowing that your words have that much power over him make you feel super sexy? 😎
I’m loving this post and these answers – I’m in the middle of writing a sex scene and all of a sudden, the hero’s talking the whole way through…keep the answers coming please! 🙂
I loooove sex talk. My partner and I talk often during sex. Not everytime or all the way through but often. He usually starts it and I like to tease him by not answering. I prefer him demanding an answer. He’s a man’s man, know what I mean? It’s better for both of us if I tease him so he can take charge.
Best thing about talking dirty? I use words I’d never use anywhere else and my man says he always wanted a lady who was a whore in the bedroom. I benefit (sigh yum) ’cause he’s waaayyyy grateful. :blush:
I find myself reminded of a rap song. I think it is by Ludircious, but don’t quote me on that. How does he put it??? Men want a lady in the street and a freak in the bed! Yeah that’s it! So be ladylike and humble in normal everyday life, but in bed be a demanding adventurous tigress, ready to suck and f**k till the cows come home. 😀
I love sex talk/noises. Paula and Os’ answers pretty much cover the reasons why.