Comments on: Wondering Thoughts http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/ Romance with Heat, Erotica with Heart Fri, 10 Oct 2008 23:43:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: Grace http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1894 Grace Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1894 I don't think one person is naturally more "sexual" than others. Perhaps not as selective. <br /> <br /> I think those that say it's not a big deal, purposely don't want to connect with others in a cereberal sense to avoid being hurt again and acting like it's not a big deal is a cover.<br /> <br /> To me, sex is a big deal. I can't have it if I don't have feeling for you. It's the Church-going girl in me. That and there are too many accidents. I can't have sex with someone I don't see wanting to be in my life for the rest of it (unless laws against murder change) in the event of said accident.<br /> <br /> Good question. It'll have me thinking the rest of the day. Mostly I just talk out of my ass. I don’t think one person is naturally more "sexual" than others. Perhaps not as selective.

I think those that say it’s not a big deal, purposely don’t want to connect with others in a cereberal sense to avoid being hurt again and acting like it’s not a big deal is a cover.

To me, sex is a big deal. I can’t have it if I don’t have feeling for you. It’s the Church-going girl in me. That and there are too many accidents. I can’t have sex with someone I don’t see wanting to be in my life for the rest of it (unless laws against murder change) in the event of said accident.

Good question. It’ll have me thinking the rest of the day. Mostly I just talk out of my ass.

]]> By: Suzanne http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1895 Suzanne Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1895 There are men who aren't obsessed with sex?????? There are men who aren’t obsessed with sex??????

]]> By: Tina http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1896 Tina Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1896 I think its all about who you are with. But also for me its about the connection, the feelings much more than the physical orgasm. I think its all about who you are with. But also for me its about the connection, the feelings much more than the physical orgasm.

]]> By: Dianna http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1897 Dianna Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1897 Yes there are people with stronger libidos then others, the sad thing is when you tie your self with some one who's doesn't match yours. (I read somewhere it is the biggest cause of relationship break up) and there are different times when libido is stronger. <br /> On Mondays Oprah they had women from different parts of the world on...Sasha you would fit in very well in Iceland. :cool: The woman there are very independant, some never marry, even when there are children, the woman said having sex is no big deal, :hehe: the sex may be a big deal, but the fact of having it with who ever isn't. A woman having children with different fathers wasn't a big deal either.<br /> As for having it with different people I wouldn't know, but I do know that everyone in awhile I will meet a guy that totally makes me feel I would do anything for him. But like Grace I couldn't just go out and have sex with a guy just for the sake of having sex. There needs to be a connection, even in my relationship if he comes home and wants sex now, I need time to adjust to him, and if we fight, nope not gonna happen. <br /> Yes Suzanne there are men out there that are not obsessed with sex! Hmm and some woman too <br /> :hehe: :hehe: Yes there are people with stronger libidos then others, the sad thing is when you tie your self with some one who’s doesn’t match yours. (I read somewhere it is the biggest cause of relationship break up) and there are different times when libido is stronger.
On Mondays Oprah they had women from different parts of the world on…Sasha you would fit in very well in Iceland. The woman there are very independant, some never marry, even when there are children, the woman said having sex is no big deal, :hehe: the sex may be a big deal, but the fact of having it with who ever isn’t. A woman having children with different fathers wasn’t a big deal either.
As for having it with different people I wouldn’t know, but I do know that everyone in awhile I will meet a guy that totally makes me feel I would do anything for him. But like Grace I couldn’t just go out and have sex with a guy just for the sake of having sex. There needs to be a connection, even in my relationship if he comes home and wants sex now, I need time to adjust to him, and if we fight, nope not gonna happen.
Yes Suzanne there are men out there that are not obsessed with sex! Hmm and some woman too
:hehe: :hehe:

]]> By: Dreamweaver http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1898 Dreamweaver Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1898 Tricky. It varies. I can go without for very long periods of time--and have. Didn't bother me. And there are times when I want it ALL THE TIME.<br /> Want it more if there's a good relationship? Yes.<br /> Can I enjoy it without?<br /> Yes.<br /> I have a friend who can't go 5 days without. She'll honestly go pick somebody up if necessary. She says sex is a NEED. Do I buy that? Not really. Something else is going on there, probably, that she 'needs'.<br /> Same with guys who 'must have'. Is it the physical release they need, or the 'male animal must have' thing? Tricky. It varies. I can go without for very long periods of time–and have. Didn’t bother me. And there are times when I want it ALL THE TIME.
Want it more if there’s a good relationship? Yes.
Can I enjoy it without?
Yes.
I have a friend who can’t go 5 days without. She’ll honestly go pick somebody up if necessary. She says sex is a NEED. Do I buy that? Not really. Something else is going on there, probably, that she ‘needs’.
Same with guys who ‘must have’. Is it the physical release they need, or the ‘male animal must have’ thing?

]]> By: Sasha http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1899 Sasha Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1899 Yes, Suzanne~ There are men that aren't obsessed with sex. :P<br /> <br /> And Strangely, the men that I personally have met that feel that way are the ones that give off the most "sexual" vibe. You know what I mean. The guy that when you're talking to him..all you can think about is sex? :cool:<br /> <br /> Now, I wonder if these guys think sex isn't that big of a need because they can always get it when they want it. Or if the fact that they seem so blase about it is why I find them attractive?<br /> <br /> The same for women, the ones that I know that are constantly talking about it, way worse than men I know, and saying how long it's been and how horny they are , are single women. I wonder if it's just the intimacy they crave, more than the actual sex. <br /> <br /> I DO think some people are more "sexual " in nature than others. But I also think that those people that are innately sexual aren't necessarily the one's that are always Wanting it or Needing it. <br /> <br /> Make sense? ;) Yes, Suzanne~ There are men that aren’t obsessed with sex. :P

And Strangely, the men that I personally have met that feel that way are the ones that give off the most "sexual" vibe. You know what I mean. The guy that when you’re talking to him..all you can think about is sex?

Now, I wonder if these guys think sex isn’t that big of a need because they can always get it when they want it. Or if the fact that they seem so blase about it is why I find them attractive?

The same for women, the ones that I know that are constantly talking about it, way worse than men I know, and saying how long it’s been and how horny they are , are single women. I wonder if it’s just the intimacy they crave, more than the actual sex.

I DO think some people are more "sexual " in nature than others. But I also think that those people that are innately sexual aren’t necessarily the one’s that are always Wanting it or Needing it.

Make sense? ;)

]]> By: Dani http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1900 Dani Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1900 I think that most people, usually woman, confuse sex for love. That by having sex with someone might lead to that great connection, which in the end I feel that sex is as good as the feelings between the two people. My other half is not obessed with sex like most men and I often get insure about NOT having sex. Is it me? Does he not find me attractive? When I asked him last night he said" I don't have to have sex with you to be in love with you.", god what a great guy!! I think that people are natural more sexual than others. I think that people also have different reasons for being sexual. Or atleast that is how i think. I think that most people, usually woman, confuse sex for love. That by having sex with someone might lead to that great connection, which in the end I feel that sex is as good as the feelings between the two people. My other half is not obessed with sex like most men and I often get insure about NOT having sex. Is it me? Does he not find me attractive? When I asked him last night he said" I don’t have to have sex with you to be in love with you.", god what a great guy!! I think that people are natural more sexual than others. I think that people also have different reasons for being sexual. Or atleast that is how i think.

]]> By: Sheri http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1901 Sheri Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1901 For me, in my experiences, it's always been about who I was with. I've dated some guys that I didn't want to touch me (Yes, those were first and only dates) some that were great until they got to the kissing part then fizz and some that zinged. . . For me, in my experiences, it’s always been about who I was with. I’ve dated some guys that I didn’t want to touch me (Yes, those were first and only dates) some that were great until they got to the kissing part then fizz and some that zinged. . .

]]> By: Jill http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1902 Jill Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1902 I'm still reeling at the news that there are men NOT obsessed with sex ... I’m still reeling at the news that there are men NOT obsessed with sex …

]]> By: Sasha http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/2005/04/27/wondering-thoughts/#comment-1903 Sasha Tue, 30 Nov 1999 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.sashawhite.net/blog/?p=355#comment-1903 Jill~ Maybe it YOU that inspires all the men you know to obsess about sex! :rolleyes: Jill~ Maybe it YOU that inspires all the men you know to obsess about sex! :rolleyes:

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