I’m single. I’ve been single my whole life. Sure, I’ve had lovers. But no boyfriend, significant other, or loved one.
So I’m wondering, in a RELATIONSHIP, in one that you feel/want to last forever (when you either see marriage in your future, or are married) how important is the sex? Would you marry, or stay married to someone you loved, but couldn’t give you an orgasm? Or what about if you want to expand your sex life (i.e.: into role-playing, Dom/sub, or adventurous locations) and your partner isn’t into it. Would that be enough to make you think you weren’t meant to be together? Is being with someone that can’t/won’t satisfy you better than being alone?
And on the other side of the coin….what if the sex is great, but you’re not happy with other aspects of the relationship? He’s unemployed and doesn’t have any money to go out with, so you often stay at home and have great sex. Or she’s a nagging bitch, but when you’re having sex she makes you feel like a God. What if you’ve been together for years, and you like him, but are not in love with him, but the sex is good. Should you stay together?
How do you know when it’s time to call it quits, and when it’s time to fight for the dream?
For me, sex is very important. It’s probably easy for me to say, if the sex isn’t good then the relationship won’t last because I’ve never been in love. ( and all my “relationships” have been with the understanding that we’re just in it for ‘fun’.) On the other hand, I’ve met guys that have asked me out, and they’ve been nice guys that I enjoyed talking too, but felt absolutely no chemistry with. Was it a mistake for me to turn them down? Could the spark have come later, after I spent more time with them? Or isn’t that something that should be there from the beginning? Whether it’s a spark of lust, or anger, or frustration, or whatever? Shouldn’t there be SOME sort of strong emotion or interest when you meet?
What do you think? Have you meet someone you felt an instant attraction for, but walked away because they weren’t the TYPE of person you thought you wanted? Or have you dated someone just because they asked, only to fall deeply in love with them later? Or maybe good sex saved your relationship? Or ruined one?
How important is sexual chemistry in a long-term relationship? I may never have one….but that doesn’t mean I’m not curious about the answers. ;)
